I have an Menopause question?

How are you suppose to feel going though it,cause i'm 51 and i'm experience bloating,cramps, mood est,weigh gain and sore and No period for 3 months now the desire is also gone and i just want to sleep no energy whatsoever.And i know i'm not pregnant i had my tubes tied.How do i get relieve from this nightmare any good advise out there from women going though the same thing i am HELP!